king solomon: if you hammered me with adam and eve back then, i think you'd crack me lol. i just think that's too easy for her to sweep under the magical mat. that just seems like a route that will put up her defenses. it's like...i don't have an on paper way to show mathematically that the garden of eden is erroneous. the philosophical questions are starting to seem too easy to refte if you're stuck way up in the jehovah's witness mindset. everything i don't understand or can't come up with something for becomes a matter to wait on jehovah. it becomes magic and then i no longer have to listen.
Well, that's one of the things about really learning the first 3 chapters of Genesis inside out, really thinking about it and understanding the implications. You really don't need anything else, and unlike the account of Noah where "God Did It!" magic greets you when you raise every scientific impossibility, you don't need to discount the scientific issues (talking serpents, magic fruit, etc) because you can simply focus on the (im)morality of God's behavior. I've written plenty on that in the past few days, so check those threads.
the free will always got me too and i think that was the first thing i really grasped onto when i started gaining the strength to leave. either make me a robot, or give me free will, but the only reason why i'm a jehovah's witness is because if i'm not...i'm gonna die. that's NOT free will. do it or die is not a death sentence, but again, i think if i can't prove it on paper....she closes that avenue off. those are both things i think would be perfect for the bible study. not to start breaking her shell and i think when it comes to that, your blows have to be blunt. philosophical questions seem more like scalpels.
Yup. The threat to follow Divine Will over-rides the option to use man's free will: it's not in man's domain when the threat of punishment is assured.
Same with the flood: I focus on God's irrational reason for carrying it out (plus it's failure to accomplish it's goal: elimination of evil), and NOT the sheer impossibility of what's depicted. Gotta appeal to her sense of right and wrong: God's actions are unjustifiable, as you say, and most people see it but are deathly afraid to even consider it (as a thought sin).
Don't get into the "dates" nonsense: that's a topic only of interest to theologians and experts (i.e. "was the Temple destroyed in 587BC or 607BC?"). That's WAY above her need.... It's like trying to explain calculus, when someone hasn't even learned arithmetic. It's pointless for her. Only date you need is "1975": the date they said Armageddon would occur, and it didn't happen. Doesn't matter what excuse they dream up.
"Pyramids"? Again, you're getting WAY too esoteric, complicated. Most women don't respond to that stuff, but to feelings and sense their of fairness and love.
Focus on the fundamentals like above, and the evils depicted in the OT, and ask, where's God's "fruitages of his spirit"? There's plenty out there: the Dinah story, Job, slavery laws, women treated as dirt/property, killing of heathens, Prophet Elijah praying to God who sent bears to eat the 40 children who teased him, etc. Problem is, some people see that stuff, and it truly doesn't offend them.... Ask her to empathize with the mothers of those children who died at God's hand, simply becuase they were associating with the only other small children within 200 miles of them, and the group picked on the wrong guy. Grieving mothers.... How fair is THAT? You have GOT to humanize the account from a perspective that most don't stop to consider.....
Good luck!